Confused?

Are you confused whether I am writing for amusement (fun) or just for information (to help lovers)?

Well, the fact is I am doing, or at least trying to do, both. I sometimes insert irony all in the middle of serious looking information. That might confuse you about what my purpose is. So, be careful to know the difference.

In Nepal, and perhaps in India too, it is really ironical to see that love marriages are more likely to fail than arranged marriage. In such a situation, I think it would be both funny as well as informative to introduce a site which discusses and highlights the practical difficulties of understanding your partner.

Understanding oneself is sufficiently difficult for most of the individuals. So, understanding someone other than oneself is not a matter to overlook. And all the problems arise because we fail to see the reason behind how our partner behaves with us under various circumstances. Adjusting with each other in everyday life means accepting each others every differences and abnormalities (psychologically everyone is abnormal!). That's a hard thing to do because people have made a thing called culture, which sets a strict rules on how to do something.

Most of the time people disagree on matters which are optional. If family bond is important than relatively culture and all other matters are optional in that regard. But people don't realize that. Some people are mad about their caste. Some are mad about their religion. Some are mad about something. Thus, they don't accept other caste, other religion, other thoughts, and many things other than they believe are right. So, this rigid thinking is the human beings biggest enemy, bigger than anger and many other so-called enemies. People get anxious, or angry, because of something and that anger leads to something unpleasant. So, I think anger is the medium. The root cause is that rigid thinking of ours which believes in only one tradition, or culture, or religion, or ethnicity and denies all others.

If my god Allah, for example, is dear to me then I should understand that someone's god, Buddha, is dear to that person. If I think that I have right to speak, I shouldn't forget that everyone else also have the right to do the same thing, and equally. So, if we put ourselves ahead of everyone, then the problem occurs.

All these rules apply to relationships. If I as a husband think that I have the right to spend my nights outside, I shouldn't forget that my wife also has every right to do so. If it's okay for me to have an extramarital affairs, then I should also accept that my partners also have every reason to do so. These kinds of examples can be written in volumes, when the relationship break because one partner considers oneself superior to another.

Therefore, the aim of this site will be to make people realize all these things and help them with their relationship. Also, a bit of irony time and again will make the writing interesting by avoiding monotony. So, I have tried my best to incorporate both aspects in my post.

Also note that some post are almost totally funny while some others are purely serious ones. Understanding each of these purposes of mine will certainly help you grasp more from what I have to say.

I wish you best of luck when surfing through my site.