Purpose of Love Letters

Love letters mainly serve two purposes in the present context:

1. Proposing a boy/girl
2. Communicating with boyfriend/girlfriend

1. Proposing a boy/girl

This is one of the most important purpose of love letter. As someone said, "First impression is the last impression." Therefore, your first love letter holds special importance for you to impress the person whom you are going to propose. The letters written for proposing a boy/girl are known as love proposal letters.

2. Communicating with lover

The second purpose of love letters is to share feelings with your partner. The written medium is convenient to express things which cannot be expressed verbally. Moreover, writing makes your message concrete. Therefore, this is an added advantage. The use of love letters for communication is still seen, although very occasionally, in various places. The medium of communication strictly depends upon the nature of the couples. However, the latest advancement in the technology also plays its' part on it.

The advancement of technology poses serious threats to love letters. Many people are of the opinion that the love letters are in the verge of extinction and we should preserve them as the endangered medium of communication between the lovers.

Perhaps, because of that reason, Mr. Superman has defined love letters as the primitive medium of proposing your boy/girl and communicating with him/her. However, that might be because Superman is very revolutionary person. He has made his presence ubiquitous although he hasn't been born yet. He is a person of the future many years ahead of us. Therefore, it's obvious and natural for him to feel like that. Nevertheless, for the rest of us, the love proposal letters are pretty common although the younger generations have shifted towards using text messages instead of full written letters. Many love birds these days, talk over phone or video chat over the internet due to the advancement of the technology. However, the essence is still the same, to communicate the voice of the heart with each other.

Introduction to Love Letters

Love letters are the means of communicating your love message to the person you like. This method is in use since the people developed scripts and learnt to read and write. Therefore, it is one of the most primitive medium of making love proposals. Usually the reply to the love proposal letter consists of the reply of the acceptance or the rejection of the love proposal. However, sometimes more information might be sought and the other party might want to learn more about you before either accepting or rejecting your proposal.

Apart from the love proposal letters other forms of love letters are exchanged between the lovers. Such letters consist of well wishing and sharing of experiences, feelings and so on with each other. Such letters also hold due importance in love relationship, especially after both parties agree to be in the relationship, as these letters help to foster and deepen the relation between the lovers.

Some lovers are straightforward and might directly communicate verbally. However, some might be shy to communicate face to face to each other. Generally, only few lovers go through this phase and for a short time. This time is perhaps the most exciting time as there is excitement in every activity they initiate for each other. However, as the partners start getting on with each other, the boundary between them narrows down and they soon become able to communicate frankly and spontaneously with each other.

Yet, in many cases oral or verbal communication might not serve the purpose. Imagine that the lovers are physically far away from each other for various reasons. In such a case, written medium becomes the cheapest and the most convenient medium to communicate with each other as it can be sent through email. Therefore, writing love letters is very important. And since love relationship strengthens more and more with the sharing of each other’s feelings and emotions, communication is vital for the love peers. Love letters, being the most feasible, fast, reliable, and cheap medium, are very effective for the couples to be in touch with each other.

True Love in Conclusion

In conclusion, true love is a matter of serious debate and different people have different opinions based on their knowledge, experience and thoughts. Moreover, new definitions, which are acceptable to many people, are yet to come, as you know already that our love education is a new discipline. True love is that in which you don’t expect too much from your partner because you know that the materialistic fulfillment isn’t the only way towards happiness and enjoyment. There are many other aspects in life which can be given due importance to make your life beautiful rather than seeking pleasure in every physical object you see. True lovers understand the key essence of life.

The physical enjoyments are almost optional. Being with each other forever is their major concern no matter what happens to the world outside. Such love relationship is based upon trust and sincerity.

Things to consider for lovers

The things lovers should consider range from minute things to the important events of life such as marriage and career. If such things are not carefully thought out and planned by the lovers then their life will meet an accident soon.

Also the lovers have a false concept that only love is important in their life. While this idea is agreed by the lovers, it is too far-fetched to resemble the reality. We cannot eat love, wear love and live in love. In order to survive, our basic needs should be fulfilled. Moreover, lovers have great demands from their partner and without a decent job such demands cannot be fulfilled. Therefore, the lovers should consider other things as well in order to make their love life successful.

1. Marriage
Lovers should carefully think about their marriage. They should, in fact, plan when to marry and how to marry. They themselves should consider if their families will accept their marriage or not and make a strategy either to convince them or to marry themselves. If the lovers don't plan about their marriage, then they might have to face queries and opposition from their families. So, it is crucial to think about marriage and plan it.

2. Career
Love and career are the two sides of the same coin, i.e, two important aspects of a same person's life. Therefore, when one side is advanced the other one should not be left behind. What I mean is when you further your love life you should not sacrifice your career for it. Well, you can change your career but don't abandon it altogether. When talking about love many people mention the importance of sacrifice. In most of the cases, this is true for trivial things such as your cartoon-watching hobby or your hobby to play computer games whenever you get leisure. You must sacrifice some time from your hobbies to discharge the newly added responsibilities. However, don't give up career. You may freely adjust it to match it with your partner's career. However, just don't give it up completely.

Not only you mustn't give it up, you should allocate sufficient time to build it up. Some kind of commitment is necessary to achieve success in your career life. So, stay committed to both love life and your career. Don't undervalue one for another because both are equally important. Career is important because it is the basis to fulfill our rudimentary needs as well our wants.

3. Social Life
You should contemplate how your social life could be influenced by your marriage and love life. Some couples try to marry out of socially accepted norms and practices. At the point when you are trying to outwit the social values, you may think that you could survive comfortably even after being an outcast. However, never forget that when you give birth to your children you'll need relatives and especially grandparents to socialize them. Otherwise, they will have various psychological problems.

Since man is a social being, society is essential to full his social needs such as the need for recognition, prestige, social security (the feeling of being secured as a part of a society), social acceptance, etc. Therefore, you should consider the importance of society rather than being carried away by individualistic mentality.

In conclusion, lovers should carefully consider the pros and cons of each decision they make and move ahead carefully. Such carefulness will not only lead to success in love but also help to gain respect and acceptance in the society.

True Love: A Case Study

True love stands out because true love is exceptional. True lovers are great persons because they have everything to accommodate and adjust with the needs and wants of each other. It is difficult but not impossible to find such love stories. Here is the commentary of my encounter of true love.

One of my friends and his girlfriend are in true love with each other, both-sided. Their love life is extraordinary. They could talk in many different languages: in their mother tongue i.e. Nepali, English, and their body language. I used to get amazed when I used to see them communicating from a distance with the help of eye, mouth and so on without producing a single sound. So, I used to think that the frequency at which their brains operate is same. Hence, both could communicate and understand each other from a distance. I would definitely call this love, a true one.

Moreover, their love didn’t involve excessive entertainment that most of the couples in love wish to engage in such as going to the cinema, restaurants, dance clubs, excursions, shopping and so on. So, their love was almost pure love or true love. While there is no harm in wanting to engage in such entertainment related activities, giving them the priority over your needs, and sometimes financial capabilities can lead to accidents in love relationship. In this world, where nothing is free, you should hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Indulging yourself in entertaining activities can prevent you from preparing for future career as well as uncertainties (or unexpected consequences). Thus, when you run into problem later you might have to face unanticipated difficulties and hurdles. That’s the time when your beloved one may leave you to find another partner because there’s nothing left with you now except problems and sorrows. If such incident would really happen then, you would regret for not preparing for this time. If your partner leaves you just because you can’t accompany him/her to enjoy the present moment, then it’s a proof that your partner wasn’t committed to you at all.

Therefore, the abstinence from entertainment is not in itself a signal of true love. But the dedication towards a better tomorrow at the cost of today’s enjoyment is definitely a sign of a long term commitment. Love stories should be sustainable, like the economies, to remain alive, forever.

Four myths related to True Love

Myths are those beliefs which are different from reality. Such myths exist in almost all the controversial topics. Since, true love is not an exception, there are many myths regarding this topic.

Myths take over your mind and make you incapable to discern fact from fiction, reality from idealism and truth from falsehood. Therefore, in some way, myths are harmful. Hence, we should free ourselves from such myths. We should be open to reality and new knowledge as the world moves along the dimensions of time and space bringing change to this world.

1. True Love is totally free from selfishness
People generally seem to have this view to demonstrate that their love is as pure as 24 karat gold. However, true love isn’t that selfless because no human can remain selfless and totally unbiased. But that degree of selflessness isn’t required for a love relationship to become a true love. Since both partners have certain expectations from each other, selfish desires are balanced sometimes and sometimes they are achieved jointly. Therefore, true love isn’t totally free from selfishness.

2. True love is all about sacrifice
If you think true love is all about sacrifice then why should you love someone? If you can sacrifice, for example, your family for your partner, what evidence is there that you won’t sacrifice your partner for someone else some day? Therefore, sacrificing is nonsense in relation to true love.

3. True love is rare
Many people believe in this myth innocently. However, this is not true. Many people still engage in fair love and most of them successfully convert their relationship into a marriage. Although everyone might not be equally committed towards their partner, their love is real. However, some relationships break, despite both its partner were engaging in true love. Why? The reason is that they undermine their relationship on small personal matters. Adjusting with a partner requires adaptation ability in the people. If the partners cannot adapt with each other’s personal and cultural differences, then such relationships tend to break-up even if their intention is not to do so.

4. Sex is absent in true love
Well, although many people have this concept, I simply don't believe in it. And guys, believe me this is just a myth. Period.

If there are any more myths you know about, which I have not mentioned above, then please leave them in the comments below.

Since education is a continuous and cumulative process, your learning becomes more effective through regular discussions. Therefore, we strongly encourage you to give your opinions in the comments below and engage in the discussion with the people all over this world! Oh people, it's so interesting to talk to the strangers!

Introduction to True Love

To understand what “true love” means, it is necessary to understand what “false love” means. So, to have some idea about false love, let us first seek the answer to the question, “Who engages in false love?” Just imagine (I'm asking you to imagine), who would like to engage in false love?

It is well known that people are selfish by nature. One way to define false love is to state it as the love relationship which is initiated to satisfy someone’s mere selfish desires which may even be detrimental (harmful) to their partner. Such love can be initiated by either parties, male or female, and for a number of reasons. Females can initiate it to enjoy the external life such as going on outing, visiting different places, going to the restaurants, shopping centers, and cinemas, preferably at the expense of her boyfriend’s money. Money is not the only target as some girls might have money but not a companion to enjoy external life. Either kinds of girls can begin a love relationship with a boy to meet their short-term purpose.

Similarly, males can also lure girls for money, especially if the girl’s parents are immensely rich; however, more practically boys might want to attract a girl to have sex. Apart from this reason they might begin a false love relation with a girl to learn her nature, or to just demonstrate their mates that they have a girlfriend. Similarly, there can be many psychological reasons, either known or unknown, for the people to engage in false love. Whatever the reasons be, false love is selfish in nature and it harms both the parties eventually.

You might be wondering how it harms both parties. First of all, their time will be wasted. However, this might not be the problem for them because their intention might be to kill time by doing one thing or the other. However, doing wrong things to kill time is certainly hazardous as it can lead to catching communicable as well as non-communicable diseases. (OMG! Not to mention the STDs!!)

Doing anything that exceeds our limit (capacity) is dangerous. Whether it is taking drugs, drinking or smoking, all these kinds of activities kill our precious time in a very short period of time such that killing time becomes unnecessary to us. Instead time will kill us as an avenge!

So, now let us define true love. True love is the opposite of false love. So, if there is high selfishness in false love then there is low level of selfishness in true love. Similarly, if false love means lack of dedication, then true love should mean high dedication towards the partner. Again, if there is no commitment in false love, then there is sincere commitment in true love.

Similarly, while false love is harmful, true love is quite helpful for both lovers. It can become a ladder to achieve success for both of them as they both can motivate each other to reach their aims. Thus, true love can directly help couples to become successful. Similarly, understanding and commitment between the lovers, keeps their social life healthy, thus the chances of mental stress are slim. Therefore, true love is very beneficial to both parties and hence, we encourage everyone to establish true love.

Update:

Now here's something interesting. I got an SMS from an unknown number (I mean I didn't know the sender and hence I didn't reply back). The SMS read like this:

"True Love is forever love; a love that never ends, as two hearts grow together as lover, partners and friends." - Unknown (Disclaimer: Edited for clarity.)

This is, I think, the real definition of True Love!